So sad, yet so true.
I used to be a Paragraph One sort of girl myself for a VERY long time. However, BoyWonder came along, assaulted my throat, and I kinda liked it.
I don't think I could ever be a Paragraph One again.
Beautiful Sarah, just Beautiful.
Very nice... and very true. Suddenly, I feel hopeful about being patient and waiting for the surprise.
Ah, the punch in the throat... I first took one of those almost exactly 19 years ago from a guy who had been just a friend to that point. Those regular sucker punches have kept us married for 12 years already.
Your writing is such a treat, Sarah Brown.
:) sarah brown... ur timing could not have been more perfect... i love you.. :)
You've hit the nail on the head with that one Miss B. I've always been a punch to throat kind of gal, I suppose I'm sadistic that way, but I also like to think that I'm more flexible and open to new experiences as well. I know a few Photobooth people, and it makes me sad to see them go through the same thing with different people to the same (usually unhappy) end.
Punches to the throat certainly hurt more, but they remind you that you're alive.
Sarah. ...fuck it, I'm going to email you.
I agree that the punch in the throat is love in all its glory. The other kind I dont think is actually love...its more like conditioning yourself to live out a fantasy.
So, the real question is, are you currently being punched in the throat? Are are you just making some general commentary?
I like the punch in the throat kind to.
This is one for Mr. Newman's project, Ms. Brown.
I've recently been punched in the throat, but it took that post to make me fully realize it. Wow!
or, as stuart davis would say, "the grim reaper wears a bra."
(although, from your perspective, i suppose it could be a jock strap.)
nothing quite like a punch to the throat, no.
aw, sarah. with the love? and the throat punching? aw.
Yeah, there's something to be said about a seriously sore throat.
ummm... is that kill bill vol 2 or are you in total love??!
Slightly off topic here so forgive me, but I've always thought this is what happens to people's weddings. There are the kind of people who have the whole thing in their head and spend thousands of dollars to make it look like their dream, or people who enjoy that terrifying thought that they are creating something unchartered and new.
Punch in the throat weddings are WAY funner, nodoubtaboutit.
thank you for always defining what i can only feel, even though i'm still waiting for my punch..
sarah brown, you really really are the best.
Now you went and made me all sad, Sarah Brown.
I was all about the punch in the throat boy, until he punched too hard.
I think I'm sticking to photobooths until I can handle the punching again. Which may be never. Who knows.
the throat punches are real hard to get over.....
No, I think both are completely viable; one is just a pretty pale way to live, from my point of view. But it's the way that makes a lot of people happy, evidently.
great post
great post. although, i've been recently punched, and would kinda like a predictable photo booth experience for awhile. grass is always greener...
hmm... developing an irregular heartbeat is the same thing as a punch in the throat, right?
but yes, nail on the head.
am hoping the boy keeps up with the punches...
Aw, all the really GOOD comments have been TAKEN!
Still, I'm linking this. Thanks, The Minor...
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Yeah, I'm with Jenny. I guess I should accept that this crazy weird strange love (Strangelove?) is real love.
This was goooooooooood. Punch-in-the-throat good.
good god, sarah. you're brilliant.
i'm a photobooth girl attempting to convert herself to the throat-punch kind.
punch in the throat is best but more likely to fade.
There are 1,666 ways that Sarah Brown is freakin brilliant. Obviosly the 666 means that she's a tad bit evil, because she is so brilliant.
yowza...very well said
p.s. if anyone wants to punch me in the throat asap it would be much appreciated
I like this post, but I think it is somewhat dangerous. I agree with Katie that hot passionate, punch in the throat can also be more volatile and less likely to last. There does need to be something new for a relationship to last and there needs to be changes made in a person, but there also needs to be things in common on a comfortable level which can be anything but boring.
i was going for the photobooth, we even went to MY cafe for a while, then i got punched in the throat and the punch is resulting in me moving to the suburbs and soon i'll be walking the dog and what not. yay punch!
Katie, Ca-chee, I see what you're saying: I don't equate the throat punching with that sort of crazy, spur of the moment, burn out fast kind of love. Maybe using the verb "punch" suggested that. I mean it instead as the kind that surprises you in a good way as opposed to the kind that you seek out. Comfort and routine are totally necessary to anything that's going to be last, just so long as you're concious of WHY it's your routine in the first place.
i agree that i'd prefer the punch in the throat, but it's partly defined by the surprise. so rather than sit around and just wait for a punch, i want to fill the between- or before-times with some fun photoboothing.
I just watched a 'Dating Patrol' about this exact thing. Did I say that out loud?
It sneaks, it does, that crazy love that has nothing to do with a "type" of person you're looking for. It can lead to an occasional bout of insanity then forgiveness but always a breath-catching "yes" when you look over at them. Each person is a set of unexpected variables, and who knows how they'll change you?
Never thought I'd be content chain-smoking after midnight, watching my boyfriend's derriere as he swings away in a batting cage after we've swilled away pints of beer in Korea.
Unfuckingbelievable. Personally, I'm a commitmentphobe so I try to avoid both kinds as much as possible.
So she lives in the end...
this post might change things
you've got me there,
with the second kind it's probably true that you don't know that it's love, the kind you want, until you're used to it and have put away your expectatinos and imaginations of it aside.
you're very astute at observations.
great reading.
I would like to be the 642d person to note that you are a genius, Sarah Brown. Thank you for being astute (ok, enough with the breathless worship). I just wanted to say: watch out for photobooth layovers. If you don't pay attention, you can end up almost married before you realize that you won't be happy spending your life in a photobooth. This is particularly true if you are the throat-puncher and the guy is all about the long walks at sunset. No, uh, this hasn't happened to me 3 times in the last 5 years. Definitely not.
pretty sharp kid............
Paragraph one kinda reminds me of "high school love." At least love from MY high school. The kinda love in which you're just trying to prove to everyone else that you have someone and yes, you are in love and look at all the cool stuff you two do together... yeah.
Am I the only one who thought of Buster on that episode of Arrested Development when he wanted someone to punch him? "Punch me! Punch me! Come on, someone punch me!" What am I saying? Of course I am - I'm probably the only person in America watching "THE BEST SHOW ON TV. PERIOD." You got two episodes left of this season, people. Get watchin' or you'll be wonderin' what the big deal is in a year when it's released on DVD and everyone makes as big a deal of it as they have for Freaks & Geeks (as equally worthy of praise as Arrested Development.)
Yeah, this ended up having almost nothing to do with Sarah's post. Screw it - you need to know about good TV.
I dont know what I meant. Just chalk it up to thai food at 3 am.
Sarah B. agreed.
Thanks for the response.
its ok tom, i thought of that too. even if its one of the very few episodes ive ever seen.
sometimes i hate limited television viewing access....
I'm going to go ahead and be the dissenting voice here. I've been punched in the throat before--been completely love sick and acted like a crazy person because of it. But looking back, it was for a boy who didn't deserve it. It kills me, because I've never felt anything quite like the way I felt for him. Now I'm in a relationship that is healthy and mutual and fun and loving, and yes we go on the same walks and take the same photos and like the same bands--but it's never felt so good and so exciting. I don't feel sick or punched in the throat, but I've never been so happy and confident. I know without a doubt that I am in love again, even if it's not kicking my ass.
However, in the vein of acting in ways I never thought I would...This boy does have me calling him "baby," which I NEVER have done before. The word got stuck in my throat the first few times it tried to come out, so if that's analogous to getting punched...well.
Awesome entry. I can't really say which I agree with, because I've never been in love, but I would have to say that being punched in the throat sounds much more exciting.
Party Liz, I know you, and I know your boyfriend, and you are definitely punched in the throat. That's a good thing. I'll explain tonight at home.
And Arrested Development is one of the best shows on TV. The only bad thing about it is it's on opposite Alias.
As someone who's been in a relationship for 7 years with someone I consider my best friend and partner, I assure you that we do not have a throat-punching relationship.
Predictability is not a sign of weakness. It is, sometimes, a sign of dedication. Knowing a flower is going to bloom does not lessen the beauty of the experience - it can even heighten your appreciation as you watch the flower slowly blossom.
Personally, I love the _comfort_ and _familiarity_ of my partner. And after 7 years, she still continues to surprise and inspire me.
And I, for one, love those goofy little photobooth pictures. =)
Okay, listen. I don't think anyone gets what I mean by throat punching. I don't mean it knocks you on your ass and it's all fiery and dramatic and torrid, I mean it SURPRISES you because it's not a COOKIE CUTTER YOU ALREADY DECIDED YOU WANTED. I'm all for comfort and familiarity. This is what I get for using a violent action verb as personal slang.
Geesh Sarah, take it easy.
I understand, you hate photobooths.
God.
Yeah, Sarah, why don't you write on YOUR OWN website, CRYBABY?
PS: Ha!
this was really well put...kind of like a love paradigm shift, isn't it? when suddenly, inexplicably, you quit expecting it to look like what you thought it would.
tarantino love is the creepy, stalker, unrequited but oddly flattering yet that doesn't mean i'm not going to call the cops, kinda love. now that's my kind of love. you should read the april 29 issue of rolling stone, crazy stuff it is.
the punch in the throat kind of love is so much more powerful, because its so much scarier and riskier. you sort of have to give up your notion of what love is, and give into this other person who is not at all what you thought you wanted, yet they're so much better, almost because of the fact that they're not what you intended love to be.
sorry to clog your comment board... but what i was getting at is that your blog rocks.
Sarah, I never post, but that was beautiful. I love that you seem to be having that kind of love with NYC as well.
=)
this was rather true.
I'm thinking you never really been punched in the throat.
shite, dude. i think maybe the problem has been my blind, unconscious, serial photobooting.
hrm.
i want the kind of love that makes me want to do better.
until then i am going to fuck my way to freedom.
Absolutely. Fucking. Brilliant.
Jake
I was a photobooth kinda girl my whole life. Long walks in the park, watching the same movies and going to the same concerts. But it got boring after a month or so, then I'd string the poor guy along until I was so fed up with him that I broke his heart. I figured I would never fall in love. Then I got punched four months ago, and it's weird. I didn't like it at first, it was so unstable, unreliable, and different! Then I realized that just because what we do is zany and sporatic, the love isn't. It's new and fresh, and it has that "new love smell" every day. Every date is like the fourth or fifth date, even after like forty dates. Amazing and brilliant Sarah. You rock!
66 comments?! christ on a cracker! how the hell do you get so much traffic?
Absolument délicieux.
Et véridique.
Christ on a cracker -- HA!
Excellent point- makes me want to call back that ex-druggie guitarist I thought I had nothing in common with...
You are Teh Awesome. Thank you for a brilliant metaphor.
Thats is the most romantic thing ive ever read.
that is the romantic thing i have ever read that includes a facial from quentin tarantino.
sarah, you punched me in the throat.
and i mean that in a non-creepy, platonic, literary, bloggy kinda way.